What does success look like? Is it fame, riches, good looks? Success is more than just what it looks like. A person that is judging and comparing success would be looking for something that says "SUCCESS!" For the person achieving success, it is more of a sense, or feeling. The achiever can tell that they are reaching their point of success, or that they have become successful at their goal. There is a joy, sense of satisfaction or peace, that starts to build up until success has been accomplished. Success does not happen over night, but the path to success can be rewarding too.
As beings of habit, we go through a regular routine every day. When working towards goals, that routine will include activities that help to build you up for being successful. This routine may include physical care, emotional care, mental care, and social care. As you continue your routine, you may notice subtle changes that have been happening over time. The longer you continue the process, the less noticeable the subtle changes become to you. However, the more obvious those changes become to
those who see you. This is what successful progress does. It is important to understand what successful progress is and how to build on it.
The Excitement of Changes and Sharing It Prematurely
Successful progress can be very exciting, especially for someone who has been fighting off doubts. It can be so exciting that you would want to share your excitement with others. As wonderful as it may be to get confirmation or validation that you are truly making progress, 95% of the time, you won't get it from others. Instead, you may end up back at the "Focus vs Fantasy" phase. Why? Successful progress is actually pretty small. You can see or feel it manifesting, but others may still see it as a fantasy. Does this mean you shouldn't embrace the moment? Absolutely not! You should embrace your progress and track it in a journal. If you can, share it with people that will truly understand it's significance
In the early stages of progress, it is very fragile and requires continuous work, or nurturing. If the person you share it with has never worked on your goal, they won't understand or see the significance in your progress. At times, even with group goals, 1 or a few people in the group may see progress towards success that others will not. With the right person, you may be able to get something more valuable than validation, which is guidance. Successful progress is an indication that you are doing something right. That's validation enough. When you see the progress, the goal is to continue to make progress. Sharing your progress should be primarily for gathering information on what you can expect and ways to work through any obstacles.
Let's look at an example:
The goal is to start a vegetable garden. You placed some seeds in a wet napkin and put them in a cool moist place, like your fridge. After about a week, you notice that the seeds have sprouted roots. Exciting, right?! A friend, who has never gardened or showed any interest in it before, comes over and you tell them what you have. They may look at you with a side eye,😒 because you have something weird in a place where you store food. 😕 However, the most you may get out of them is "Cool." 🤔This reaction may provided some negative feelings towards your progress. For some, it could be just enough for doubt to settle in and cancel out the entire garden goal.😔
An alternative approach to the example above would be the following:
You see the progress of your seeds and write down 📖 the length of time it took for it to get there, what you did, and maybe a few details that you noticed.📘 Afterwards, you decide to go to a gardening website 💻, or someone who gardens👨🌾, for information on your sprouting seeds and the process to continue it's growth. There, you may find images of what your plant is doing now, information on proper care, and how to transfer the plant from the fridge to a happier home. 😍 Not only does the site, or gardener, validate that you are on the right track, but they'll also prepare you for the next step towards your goal. See you soon vegetable garden!
The Consequences of Ending Routines Early
Today you looked in the mirror and saw something different. You are more vibrant, things are newer than what they were before. You are feeling happier about the space you are in and the things you are able to do. It seems like all your hard work has been paying off, and faster than you had expected. Maybe it's time for a break to enjoy this new beginning. That's a pretty blissful bubble your in, but **POP**. This is not the time for breaks. Progress is just an indication that you are going in the right direction, however, you are still not at the destination. Celebrating progress is not frowned upon. There is a right time and place to do that celebrating. Pausing at the site of progress can actually cause you to lose that progress. Then you'll have to start over, and it might not be as easy.
The process to get to this point may have been a bit grueling, and you would like something more pleasant. A break may seem like the right thing to do. However, it isn't. If what you are looking for is change, this moment is actually an indicator that change is indeed needed. The change is a different approach to the next mile stone. Here you can make the process a bit more fun, especially since it may require more work or a slight change in your routine. So, don't plan that vacation away from your work just yet. Instead, plan a way to make this next phase more enjoyable. With making the journey more fun, you can give yourself that change you needed while continuing to work on the next small success.
Seeing the Bigger Successes
Successful progress is a point where you start to see your dreams become a reality. It is also a reminder that you have more work to do. Just like the vegetable garden goal example, the roots of the seeds are just the beginning of the vegetable garden. From the roots, there is a long period of continuous growth and nurturing that is needed to turn it into a fully developed plant. Then another process for it to start to flower or bear fruit, and another process for it to make multitudes of others like it. This is just an example that 1 mile stone is just a door to another milestone that must be achieved.
As you continue your routine, you will start to realize that there are specific types of changes needed to continue to progress. Because of these changes, you will start to look for the mile stones towards your success, which then makes the subtle changes less noticeable. Like most habits, in the beginning, the process is new and every change matters. Of course, in the beginning you are also learning, so every change does matter. Over time, with continuous practice of your routines and steady progresses, you start to adapt to the new changes and settle into a different lifestyle. At this point, you will see the mile stones ahead, the next steps towards them, and even obstacles you may face more clearly. Your success path will be easier to map out, making your first true celebration worth waiting for.
This is also the point where other people will start to see your changes. How they perceive these changes may be different to what you would expect. Keep in mind, this is now your new lifestyle. It is very important to you, so what others may perceive is only important if it promotes your success. You will see a bigger picture while others are only now able to see the smaller changes. You must always remember, you are aware of more than what others can see. Any advice taken should only be from those working with you or those who have succeeded at your goal. Yet, even then, it should be taken with consideration. You are capable of making good decisions for your your own success. Enjoy each successful progress achieved. Enjoy your your life journey!